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IRSYAD AL-HADITH SIRI KE-305: MENOLAK AJAKAN SUAMI
Is there a hadith about the punishment for a wife who refuses her husband's invitation to intimacy?
Short answer
A hadith recorded by al-Bukhari states that if a wife refuses her husband's call to bed and he sleeps angry with her, the angels curse her until morning.
A reference, not a fatwa. First sentence of the summary below — read the original fatwa and consult your state authority before acting.
- Authority
- Federal Territories Mufti Office
- Date
- Status
- Opinion (irsyad)
- Series
- Irsyad al-Hadith
- Topic
- Marriage & Family
No evidence of gazettement in the source — this is not a gazetted fatwa.
Summary
A hadith recorded by al-Bukhari states that if a wife refuses her husband's call to bed and he sleeps angry with her, the angels curse her until morning. Imam al-Nawawi explains that it is forbidden for a wife to refuse without a valid shariah excuse, and menstruation is not an excuse since the husband may still enjoy what is outside the private part. The curse continues until dawn, until the husband is satisfied, or until the wife repents and accepts his invitation. The ruling also stresses that intimacy is a mutual right to be discussed and agreed upon well, without injustice.
Written in our own words from the original fatwa — check the source before acting on it.
Imam al-Nawawi menyatakan bahawa hadith ini menjadi dalil bahawa haramnya seorang isteri itu menolak ajakan suaminya tanpa keuzuran yang syarak
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How to cite
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Federal Territories Mufti Office. “IRSYAD AL-HADITH SIRI KE-305: MENOLAK AJAKAN SUAMI”, 27 November 2018. https://muftiwp.gov.my/ms/artikel/irsyad-al-hadith/2813-irsyad-al-hadith-siri-ke-305-menolak-ajakan-suami. Found via Rujuk Fatwa: https://rujukfatwa.com/en/fatwa/wife-refusing-husband-invitation-ruling/