FatwaFederal TerritoriesDress, Awrah & Adornment
AL-KAFI #1419 : ANAK LELAKI MENGINTAI SEPUPU PEREMPUAN
What should a mother do when her teenage son keeps secretly looking at a female cousin staying over at their home?
Short answer
Parents or guardians must teach a son who has reached puberty the proper manners of dealing with non-mahram women, including cousins, because a female cousin is a permissible marriage partner and the limits of interaction must be kept.
A reference, not a fatwa. First sentence of the summary below — read the original fatwa and consult your state authority before acting.
- Authority
- Federal Territories Mufti Office
- Date
- Status
- Opinion (irsyad)
- Series
- Al-Kafi li al-Fatawi
- Topic
- Dress, Awrah & Adornment
No evidence of gazettement in the source — this is not a gazetted fatwa.
Summary
Parents or guardians must teach a son who has reached puberty the proper manners of dealing with non-mahram women, including cousins, because a female cousin is a permissible marriage partner and the limits of interaction must be kept. An important rule is the prohibition on looking at the opposite sex even without desire, unless there is a purpose allowed by Shariah, while some scholars permit looking at non-aurat parts without desire. A girl who has reached puberty must cover her aurat before unrelated men, meaning the whole body except the face and palms.
Written in our own words from the original fatwa — check the source before acting on it.
Apabila seorang kanak-kanak lelaki mencapai umur baligh, maka wajib ke atas ibu bapa atau penjaganya mengajarnya adab bagaimana untuk berinteraksi dengan wanita bukan mahram, sekalipun sepupunya.
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How to cite
Cite the original fatwa and its authority. Rujuk Fatwa is only where you found it.
Federal Territories Mufti Office. “AL-KAFI #1419 : ANAK LELAKI MENGINTAI SEPUPU PEREMPUAN”, 12 November 2019. https://muftiwp.gov.my/ms/artikel/al-kafi-li-al-fatawi/3785-al-kafi-1419-anak-lelaki-mengintai-sepupu-perempuan. Found via Rujuk Fatwa: https://rujukfatwa.com/en/fatwa/son-secretly-looking-at-female-cousin/