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IRSYAD HUKUM SIRI KE-755: HUKUM ISTERI MENOLAK NAFKAH BATIN
What is the ruling on a wife refusing her husband's request for intimacy, or lying that she is menstruating, because she is tired from work?
Short answer
A wife is forbidden to deny her husband's right to intimacy, and refusing him through excuses, including falsely claiming to be menstruating, is a major sin.
A reference, not a fatwa. First sentence of the summary below — read the original fatwa and consult your state authority before acting.
- Authority
- Federal Territories Mufti Office
- Date
- Status
- Opinion (irsyad)
- Series
- Irsyad al-Hukum (Umum)
- Topic
- Marriage & Family
No evidence of gazettement in the source — this is not a gazetted fatwa.
Summary
A wife is forbidden to deny her husband's right to intimacy, and refusing him through excuses, including falsely claiming to be menstruating, is a major sin. The only exceptions are valid shariah excuses such as menstruation, postnatal bleeding, zihar, harmful illness and the state of ihram. Given modern life in which wives also work, the ruling advises both spouses to discuss and reach mutual understanding so that the rights of both are preserved.
Written in our own words from the original fatwa — check the source before acting on it.
Secara asasnya isteri dilarang menafikan hak suami ke atas dirinya, bahkan menolak permintaan suami untuk bersetubuh dengan memberi helah adalah berdosa besar melainkan pada keuzuran syarak seperti ketika haid, nifas, keadaan zihar, sakit dan ketika ihram.
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How to cite
Cite the original fatwa and its authority. Rujuk Fatwa is only where you found it.
Federal Territories Mufti Office. “IRSYAD HUKUM SIRI KE-755: HUKUM ISTERI MENOLAK NAFKAH BATIN”, 16 February 2023. https://muftiwp.gov.my/ms/artikel/irsyad-hukum/umum/5533-irsyad-al-fatwa-siri-ke-755-hukum-isteri-menolak-nafkah-batin. Found via Rujuk Fatwa: https://rujukfatwa.com/en/fatwa/ruling-wife-refusing-marital-intimacy-husband/