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IRSYAD HUKUM SIRI KE 550: HUKUM MELAMAR WANITA SECARA TERBUKA DI DEPAN KHALAYAK RAMAI
What is the ruling on a man proposing to a woman openly in front of a crowd, and does it go against Islamic teachings?
Short answer
Proposing to a woman openly before a crowd is regarded as a matter of local custom and culture.
A reference, not a fatwa. First sentence of the summary below — read the original fatwa and consult your state authority before acting.
- Authority
- Federal Territories Mufti Office
- Date
- Status
- Opinion (irsyad)
- Series
- Irsyad al-Hukum (Umum)
- Topic
- Marriage & Family
No evidence of gazettement in the source — this is not a gazetted fatwa.
Summary
Proposing to a woman openly before a crowd is regarded as a matter of local custom and culture. However, this ruling advises avoiding it because it is neither an Islamic practice nor a Malay custom, and it can expose a person's dignity to harm. Proposing through the woman's guardian is preferred, as it protects the dignity of both parties and gives her enough time to consider the proposal without pressure.
Written in our own words from the original fatwa — check the source before acting on it.
Melamar wanita secara terbuka di depan khalayak ramai adalah lebih berkait dengan adat dan budaya masyarakat setempat.
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How to cite
Cite the original fatwa and its authority. Rujuk Fatwa is only where you found it.
Federal Territories Mufti Office. “IRSYAD HUKUM SIRI KE 550: HUKUM MELAMAR WANITA SECARA TERBUKA DI DEPAN KHALAYAK RAMAI”, 25 February 2021. https://muftiwp.gov.my/ms/artikel/irsyad-hukum/umum/4674-irsyad-al-fatwa-siri-ke-550-hukum-melamar-wanita-secara-terbuka-di-depan-khalayak-ramai. Found via Rujuk Fatwa: https://rujukfatwa.com/en/fatwa/ruling-public-marriage-proposal-in-front-of-crowd/