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IRSYAD HUKUM SIRI KE-782: IBU BAPA BERSIFAT PILIH KASIH TERHADAP ANAK-ANAK
What is the ruling on parents who show favouritism among their children, leaving some feeling hurt?
Short answer
Parental favouritism is disliked in religion because it breeds resentment within the family, especially among siblings.
A reference, not a fatwa. First sentence of the summary below — read the original fatwa and consult your state authority before acting.
- Authority
- Federal Territories Mufti Office
- Date
- Status
- Opinion (irsyad)
- Series
- Irsyad al-Hukum (Umum)
- Topic
- Marriage & Family
No evidence of gazettement in the source — this is not a gazetted fatwa.
Summary
Parental favouritism is disliked in religion because it breeds resentment within the family, especially among siblings. According to Imam al-Nawawi, parents should be fair in giving gifts, and unequal treatment is makruh although the gift itself remains valid. Fairness does not require identical gifts, as they may differ by age and gender, and it also covers affection and kind treatment of every child.
Written in our own words from the original fatwa — check the source before acting on it.
Sifat pilih kasih ibu bapa kepada anak-anak merupakan perkara yang dibenci dalam agama kerana perbuatan tersebut hanya akan mengundang kebencian sesama keluarga terutamanya dalam kalangan adik beradik.
Read the full fatwa on the Federal Territories website (new tab)
How to cite
Cite the original fatwa and its authority. Rujuk Fatwa is only where you found it.
Federal Territories Mufti Office. “IRSYAD HUKUM SIRI KE-782: IBU BAPA BERSIFAT PILIH KASIH TERHADAP ANAK-ANAK”, 13 June 2023. https://muftiwp.gov.my/ms/artikel/irsyad-hukum/umum/5666-irsyad-al-fatwa-siri-ke-782-ibu-bapa-bersifat-pilih-kasih-terhadap-anak-anak. Found via Rujuk Fatwa: https://rujukfatwa.com/en/fatwa/ruling-parents-favouritism-among-children/