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IRSYAD HUKUM SIRI KE-298 : HUKUM KELUAR DENGAN BEKAS ISTERI BERSAMA ANAK KECIL
May a divorced couple meet to spend time with their young child, and what limits apply to their interaction?
Short answer
By default, a divorced couple are non-mahram strangers, so meeting without need that leads to staring, seclusion and intimate conversation is not permitted.
A reference, not a fatwa. First sentence of the summary below — read the original fatwa and consult your state authority before acting.
- Authority
- Federal Territories Mufti Office
- Date
- Status
- Opinion (irsyad)
- Series
- Irsyad al-Hukum (Umum)
- Topic
- Marriage & Family
No evidence of gazettement in the source — this is not a gazetted fatwa.
Summary
By default, a divorced couple are non-mahram strangers, so meeting without need that leads to staring, seclusion and intimate conversation is not permitted. This ruling holds that meeting is permissible because of genuine needs tied to the child's maintenance, education and welfare, with the mother as custodian. They may not be alone together, so a third party such as a mahram or a trustworthy Muslim woman must be present, or the meeting must take place in public without causing fitnah. The current wife is advised to think well of Allah, entrust the matter to Him after making effort and relying on Him, and not let jealousy turn into suspicion.
Written in our own words from the original fatwa — check the source before acting on it.
Justeru, berjumpa dan berbuat dengan bekas isteri bagi tujuan maslahat anak adalah diharuskan.
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How to cite
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Federal Territories Mufti Office. “IRSYAD HUKUM SIRI KE-298 : HUKUM KELUAR DENGAN BEKAS ISTERI BERSAMA ANAK KECIL”, 22 March 2019. https://muftiwp.gov.my/ms/artikel/irsyad-hukum/umum/3216-irsyad-al-fatwa-siri-ke-298-hukum-keluar-dengan-bekas-isteri-bersama-anak-kecil. Found via Rujuk Fatwa: https://rujukfatwa.com/en/fatwa/ruling-meeting-ex-wife-with-young-child/