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IRSYAD HUKUM SIRI KE-808: MANA YANG PERLU DIDAHULUKAN IBU DAN BAPA ATAU SUAMI?
If a father tells his married daughter to obey him while her husband also requires her obedience, whom should she put first?
Short answer
A married woman must obey her husband without neglecting her parents.
A reference, not a fatwa. First sentence of the summary below — read the original fatwa and consult your state authority before acting.
- Authority
- Federal Territories Mufti Office
- Date
- Status
- Opinion (irsyad)
- Series
- Irsyad al-Hukum (Umum)
- Topic
- Marriage & Family
No evidence of gazettement in the source — this is not a gazetted fatwa.
Summary
A married woman must obey her husband without neglecting her parents. If she must choose between the two, she is obliged to put her husband first, provided his instruction does not cause harm to her parents. If the instruction would harm them, for example forbidding financial help to poor parents when she is able, or forbidding care for critically ill parents when no one else can take over, she may decline to obey him.
Written in our own words from the original fatwa — check the source before acting on it.
Seorang wanita yang telah berkahwin wajib mentaati suaminya tanpa membelakangkan ibu dan bapanya.
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How to cite
Cite the original fatwa and its authority. Rujuk Fatwa is only where you found it.
Federal Territories Mufti Office. “IRSYAD HUKUM SIRI KE-808: MANA YANG PERLU DIDAHULUKAN IBU DAN BAPA ATAU SUAMI?”, 22 November 2023. https://muftiwp.gov.my/ms/artikel/irsyad-hukum/umum/5785-irsyad-al-fatwa-siri-ke-808-mana-yang-perlu-didahulukan-ibu-dan-bapa-atau-suami. Found via Rujuk Fatwa: https://rujukfatwa.com/en/fatwa/parents-or-husband-who-comes-first/