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IRSYAD HUKUM SIRI KE-367 : HAK IBU AYAH CAMPUR TANGAN DALAM RUMAH TANGGA ANAK
How far may parents get involved in their child's marriage, and is it wrong for parents to ask their child to separate when the child is often beaten and mistreated by the spouse?
Short answer
A child's relationship with and duty to their parents does not end upon marriage, and the child must be kind and obedient to them.
A reference, not a fatwa. First sentence of the summary below — read the original fatwa and consult your state authority before acting.
- Authority
- Federal Territories Mufti Office
- Date
- Status
- Opinion (irsyad)
- Series
- Irsyad al-Hukum (Umum)
- Topic
- Marriage & Family
No evidence of gazettement in the source — this is not a gazetted fatwa.
Summary
A child's relationship with and duty to their parents does not end upon marriage, and the child must be kind and obedient to them. The ruling cites the Prophet's instruction to Abdullah bin Umar to divorce his wife and obey his father. Ali al-Qari states the instruction is recommended, or obligatory if other factors arise. Ahmad Hutaibah explains that obedience as in Umar's case depends on the character of the parents, and a child is encouraged to seek harmony and parental approval as far as able.
Written in our own words from the original fatwa — check the source before acting on it.
Seorang anak itu, sama ada lelaki atau perempuan, wajib berbuat baik kepada ibu bapa, mentaati dan mengelakkan diri daripada melukakan hati mereka.
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How to cite
Cite the original fatwa and its authority. Rujuk Fatwa is only where you found it.
Federal Territories Mufti Office. “IRSYAD HUKUM SIRI KE-367 : HAK IBU AYAH CAMPUR TANGAN DALAM RUMAH TANGGA ANAK”, 14 January 2020. https://muftiwp.gov.my/ms/artikel/irsyad-hukum/umum/3982-irsyad-al-fatwa-siri-ke-367-hak-ibu-ayah-campur-tangan-dalam-rumah-tangga-anak. Found via Rujuk Fatwa: https://rujukfatwa.com/en/fatwa/parents-involvement-in-childs-marriage/