FatwaFederal TerritoriesEthics, Remembrance & Supplication
IRSYAD AL-HUKUM SIRI KE-958: BENARKAH KITA PERLU MENTAATI IBU BAPA DALAM SEMUA KEADAAN?
Must a child obey their parents in every situation, even when the instruction forces the child to give up a job or studies?
Short answer
Obeying parents is obligatory but not absolute. Obedience is not permitted if their instruction contradicts God's commands or involves sin.
A reference, not a fatwa. First sentence of the summary below — read the original fatwa and consult your state authority before acting.
- Authority
- Federal Territories Mufti Office
- Date
- Status
- Opinion (irsyad)
- Series
- Irsyad al-Hukum (Umum)
- Topic
- Ethics, Remembrance & Supplication
No evidence of gazettement in the source — this is not a gazetted fatwa.
Summary
Obeying parents is obligatory but not absolute. Obedience is not permitted if their instruction contradicts God's commands or involves sin. If obeying would harm the child, such as having to leave a job that provides a livelihood or stop ongoing studies, obedience is not obligatory. However, if it only causes difficulty without harm, the duty to obey still applies, and the child should discuss the matter with wisdom and good manners.
Written in our own words from the original fatwa — check the source before acting on it.
Walaupun mentaati ibu bapa itu hukumnya adalah wajib namun ia bukanlah bersifat mutlak. Jika arahan mereka bertentangan dengan perintah Allah atau melibatkan maksiat, maka ketaatan dalam konteks ini tidak dibenarkan.
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How to cite
Cite the original fatwa and its authority. Rujuk Fatwa is only where you found it.
Federal Territories Mufti Office. “IRSYAD AL-HUKUM SIRI KE-958: BENARKAH KITA PERLU MENTAATI IBU BAPA DALAM SEMUA KEADAAN?”, 25 June 2026. https://muftiwp.gov.my/ms/artikel/irsyad-hukum/umum/6605-irsyad-al-hukum-siri-ke-958-benarkah-kita-perlu-mentaati-ibu-bapa-dalam-semua-keadaan. Found via Rujuk Fatwa: https://rujukfatwa.com/en/fatwa/must-children-obey-parents-in-all-situations/