FatwaFederal TerritoriesMarriage & Family
AL-KAFI #1012: TINGGAL BERSAMA MERTUA ATAU BERASINGAN?
May a married couple move out of the mother-in-law's home to live separately if the husband has not yet been able to provide their own residence?
Short answer
The fatwa states that a couple who are able should ideally live apart from parents and extended family, as privacy and comfort are better secured without outside interference.
A reference, not a fatwa. First sentence of the summary below — read the original fatwa and consult your state authority before acting.
- Authority
- Federal Territories Mufti Office
- Date
- Status
- Opinion (irsyad)
- Series
- Al-Kafi li al-Fatawi
- Topic
- Marriage & Family
No evidence of gazettement in the source — this is not a gazetted fatwa.
Summary
The fatwa states that a couple who are able should ideally live apart from parents and extended family, as privacy and comfort are better secured without outside interference. Since the mother-in-law already has another child caring for her, it is not a problem for the other children to move out, provided they continue to give attention, financial support, visits and gifts. The husband is advised to recognise his wife's right to proper housing, the wife is advised to obey and avoid nusyuz, and both are encouraged to consult each other in decisions.
Written in our own words from the original fatwa — check the source before acting on it.
Sepatutnya, apabila pasangan sudah berkahwin dan mempunyai kemampuan untuk hidup bersama selain daripada ibubapa dan keluarga, maka inilah yang terbaiknya.
Read the full fatwa on the Federal Territories website (new tab)
How to cite
Cite the original fatwa and its authority. Rujuk Fatwa is only where you found it.
Federal Territories Mufti Office. “AL-KAFI #1012: TINGGAL BERSAMA MERTUA ATAU BERASINGAN?”, 30 December 2018. https://muftiwp.gov.my/ms/artikel/al-kafi-li-al-fatawi/2964-al-kafi-1012-tinggal-bersama-mertua-atau-berasingan. Found via Rujuk Fatwa: https://rujukfatwa.com/en/fatwa/living-with-in-laws-or-separately/