FatwaFederal TerritoriesEthics, Remembrance & Supplication
AL-KAFI #1698 : HUKUM MENJAUHKAN DIRI DARI KAWAN BAGI MENGELAKKAN SAKIT HATI DENGAN PERBUATAN DAN KATA-KATANYA
Is it permissible to distance oneself from a friend to avoid being hurt by his words and actions?
Short answer
It is permissible to keep away from a person who causes hurt through speech or deeds, so that worse harm does not befall either party.
A reference, not a fatwa. First sentence of the summary below — read the original fatwa and consult your state authority before acting.
- Authority
- Federal Territories Mufti Office
- Date
- Status
- Opinion (irsyad)
- Series
- Al-Kafi li al-Fatawi
- Topic
- Ethics, Remembrance & Supplication
No evidence of gazettement in the source — this is not a gazetted fatwa.
Summary
It is permissible to keep away from a person who causes hurt through speech or deeds, so that worse harm does not befall either party. Avoiding the company of someone who harms one in matters of religion or worldly affairs is in fact encouraged by the Shariah. The fatwa also advises giving the friend a gentle and proper reminder to stop, and making supplication for good friendships to be preserved.
Written in our own words from the original fatwa — check the source before acting on it.
dibenarkan untuk seseorang itu menjauhi individu-individu yang menyakitinya sama ada secara lisan atau secara fizikal, bagi mengelakkan sebarang keburukan yang lebih teruk berlaku kepada kedua belah pihak.
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How to cite
Cite the original fatwa and its authority. Rujuk Fatwa is only where you found it.
Federal Territories Mufti Office. “AL-KAFI #1698 : HUKUM MENJAUHKAN DIRI DARI KAWAN BAGI MENGELAKKAN SAKIT HATI DENGAN PERBUATAN DAN KATA-KATANYA”, 13 April 2020. https://muftiwp.gov.my/ms/artikel/al-kafi-li-al-fatawi/4431-al-kafi-1698-hukum-menjauhkan-diri-dari-kawan-bagi-mengelakkan-sakit-hati-dengan-perbuatan-dan-kata-katanya. Found via Rujuk Fatwa: https://rujukfatwa.com/en/fatwa/distancing-oneself-from-a-hurtful-friend-ruling/