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IRSYAD HUKUM SIRI KE-577: JODOH TAK LEKAT; SILAP SIAPA?
Is delayed marriage caused by a woman being independent and career-minded, or is it a matter of divine decree?
Short answer
Finding a spouse is a matter of destiny decreed by Allah and is not linked to a person's character.
A reference, not a fatwa. First sentence of the summary below — read the original fatwa and consult your state authority before acting.
- Authority
- Federal Territories Mufti Office
- Date
- Status
- Opinion (irsyad)
- Series
- Irsyad al-Hukum (Umum)
- Topic
- Marriage & Family
No evidence of gazettement in the source — this is not a gazetted fatwa.
Summary
Finding a spouse is a matter of destiny decreed by Allah and is not linked to a person's character. Educated, independent or career-oriented women pose no threat to men, since the man's qawwamah (leadership) in marriage remains. A believer is still required to strive and pray, and a woman may take the initiative in an honourable way, as Khadijah did when she proposed to the Prophet. Marriage is not a measure of one's standing with Allah, though it can be a means to attain His pleasure.
Written in our own words from the original fatwa — check the source before acting on it.
Jodoh adalah urusan takdir yang telah ditentukan oleh Allah SWT. Ia tidak berkait dengan perwatakan seseorang individu.
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How to cite
Cite the original fatwa and its authority. Rujuk Fatwa is only where you found it.
Federal Territories Mufti Office. “IRSYAD HUKUM SIRI KE-577: JODOH TAK LEKAT; SILAP SIAPA?”, 12 June 2021. https://muftiwp.gov.my/ms/artikel/irsyad-hukum/umum/4827-irsyad-al-fatwa-siri-ke-577-jodoh-tak-lekat-silap-siapa. Found via Rujuk Fatwa: https://rujukfatwa.com/en/fatwa/delayed-marriage-fate-or-womans-character/