FatwaFederal TerritoriesEthics, Remembrance & Supplication
konflik keluarga: beranilah untuk berbincang
Is a child considered disobedient for refusing a parent's demand that is not outwardly sinful but which the child feels harms their relationship with Allah?
Short answer
In general, a child must obey both parents in all situations.
A reference, not a fatwa. First sentence of the summary below — read the original fatwa and consult your state authority before acting.
- Authority
- Federal Territories Mufti Office
- Date
- Status
- Opinion (irsyad)
- Series
- Al-Kafi li al-Fatawi
- Topic
- Ethics, Remembrance & Supplication
No evidence of gazettement in the source — this is not a gazetted fatwa.
Summary
In general, a child must obey both parents in all situations. For a case like this, the fatwa advises the child and parents to hold a discussion so that both sides can present their reasons with harmony and affection. It describes consultation (shura) as a basic principle in Islam that brings good outcomes, while a lack of consultation leads to strained relations. Family members are also encouraged to treat one another as well as possible for household harmony.
Written in our own words from the original fatwa — check the source before acting on it.
Pada umumnya, si anak hendaklah mentaati perintah kedua ibu bapanya dalam semua keadaan.
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How to cite
Cite the original fatwa and its authority. Rujuk Fatwa is only where you found it.
Federal Territories Mufti Office. “konflik keluarga: beranilah untuk berbincang”, 15 March 2016. https://muftiwp.gov.my/ms/artikel/al-kafi-li-al-fatawi/1797-konflik-keluarga-beranilah-untuk-berbincang. Found via Rujuk Fatwa: https://rujukfatwa.com/en/fatwa/child-refusing-parents-demand-disobedience/